I bet that you have never ever considered putting time and effort in becoming a better speaker. After all, you are not a public speaker. A public speaker, as the name implies, speaks to public. To the audience.
And you never do that, right? This area of expertise is simply not for you.
If that’s your approach, you are dead wrong. And it’s not just that it’s wrong.
It is risky.
And it’s not a one-time risk. That risk is going to accumulate through the years. Are you willing to accept it?
I want to bring you a simple concept, but one that is very easily missed in the mix of our own perceptions. Semantics also get in the way. But let’s leave it for later.
Now for now let’s have a little test.
Tell me what comes to your mind when you hear about public speaking?
Let’s really go into it – imagine you are a public speaker.
I mean really, do it.
Close your eyes and try to visualize yourself in the role, as you are speaking to people. Answer these questions to get you started. Slowly, one by one. Remember, you are a public speaker and you are speaking to people:
- Where are you? What kind of place is it?
- How do you look? How are you dressed?
- What are you doing?
Think about it for a minute. You are a public speaker.
Why you ignore it
Ready? Let me try to guess.
Chances are you were in the middle of some sort of public arena, with dozens (hundreds?) of people holding their breath to absorb your every word. They all looked at you. You could not see them clearly as all the light in room centered on the stage.
Yes! A stage. And a podium. Naturally you also had a microphone. People in the 10th row have to hear you as well. You were dressed for the occasion. A designer’s dress, suit or a tuxedo. Occasional clapping and ovation interweaving your award-winning speech. You are a celebrity. You are a public speaker.
That’s public speaking, right? Right?
Well, not entirely. Sure that is considered to be public speaking. But not exclusively! However for most people that’s the only glorified perception they have. I hear these all the time when I say I help people become better at speaking well in front of others. Quite often the topic seems distant, unattainable, something that “some people do”, but not us.
After all what are the odds of ending up in a scenario like the one above for the average person? We could probably say it is unlikely. It’s almost as unlikely as publishing a book (sic!) or even starting a blog and posting interesting content regularly (I can do it, I can do it, I can do it…)
There is a Problem with semantics
I believe part of the problem lies in the word public itself and it’s associations.
Public service to the nation, public announcements in the media, go public with your book. Public almost always means EVERYONE. A population or a community as a whole. It’s hard to not think about a mass of people when the word is mentioned.
Unfortunately, this understanding of the term also alienates most people from getting interested in improving their speaking abilities in front of others. And they miss out in life big time, because of it.
But is this really the case that speaking publicly is speaking to masses only? No.
Buckle up. We need to redefine public speaking.
Your new definition of Public Speaking
So let’s redefine. Ok, but what for?
In order for you to see that everything connected with this topic is applicable to your daily life. It’s not at all about that once-in-a-lifetime event when you will collect your academy award (I wish you do, really).
Consider the following examples:
- You are a student, sitting in the class of a dozen people during a lecture. Suddenly professor asks a question and you just happen to know the answer. All you have to do is to raise your hand.
- Your boss asks you to present your department’s ideas to him and his counterpart from the other team. Just to the two of them. You can choose how to do it.
- You are approaching a person you don’t know at a party, nobody else is around. You stand there and chat.
- You have been invited to an interview for a job that you always wanted. You walk in, sit at the desk and await the recruiter.
Now let me ask you. Would you consider these public speaking opportunities? No? So let me ask you these:
Is there a public? Hmm. Yes.
Are you speaking or will be speaking? Well, yes…
Take a second to mentally prepare for the imminent truth. The size of the audience doesn’t matter.
Whenever you have an audience of any size listening to you as you are communicating your ideas – you are speaking in public. In fact, I would go as far as saying that as long as you are talking to anyone else than yourself – you are a public speaker.
You are a speaker already
Now that’s a bit closer to home, isn’t it? People do the above dozens, even several hundred times a day.
You have done all of the above. And yet you take little or no action in order to make sure you get the most out of these interactions.
As I wrote my first concise book You Are A Speaker Already I only had one goal in mind. To show you, that if you are even remotely interested in achieving any success in life (unless you define success as living as a hermit) then you absolutely must invest some of your time and attention into becoming a better speaker and communicator.
Unlike many sources you can find online, I want to show you the raw reasons you can relate to.
Speaking well in front of others touches every area of your life, whether you are aware of it or not (from my experience – most are not). Speaking well is more than just a communication skill that helps you thrive at work and socially. It also changes you. How?
Download You Are A Speaker Already book now and find out yourself. It’s just 40 pages, and it’s free: LINK
Now I want to know from you:
- When was the last time you were speaking in public?
- How big was your audience?
- Tell me of any one-on-one speaking situations where you did poorly because you did not know how to approach it
Leave a comment now.