I used to be terrible at staying in touch with friends. It’s a habit I’ve been developing since high-school. Missed phone calls, not replying to texts, no-shows. Cheers to anyone who ended up being a victim of mine. A straight-up terrible person.
Naturally, there is an origin story behind it, but that’s not important now. What is important is that I used to be terrible at staying in touch with friends.
But I am not anymore. I choose not to be this way any longer.
It was time to take my iron-willed self-development war machine to a new front.
I’ve been contemplating this a lot recently. This gave me some food for thought, as well as discussing life with my beloved parents. Finally I realized it was time to take my iron-willed self-development war machine to a new front.
If I can be so thorough and disciplined in other areas of life, do my work as planned, go to the gym without skipping a workout, read daily and pretty much complete whatever plans I put in front of myself, why wouldn’t I be able to change this as well?
Sure I can.
So how would I tackle this? It didn’t take long to realize that most projects I manage to complete always start with some sort of visualization. Putting things on paper. Drawing. Making them more tangible.
So I did this. Witness my Tree of Friends:
Clearly, it didn’t take me more than 5 minutes of work in my notepad, answering the following questions:
- Who I care about?
- Who cares about me?
- Who have I neglected?
I scanned the picture and carry it around with me in Evernote. When I get back home I will post it at my desk as a constant, visual reminder of where I should channel my friendship energy.
The idea is simple. To look at it daily and ask myself: “When was the last time I reached out?”
And to do it.
Stay in touch with your friends.
P.S. I didn’t want to disappoint anyone, so I blurred out the names. If you made it to the list then you can be sure that I am not letting our relationship die out! Things have changed for good in this department.
Do you struggle keeping in touch with people as well? How do you manage this?
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